Anonymous said: I don't understand how you can date more then one person. You can't be in love with more then one person at a time and you are being selfish.

songless:

Do you also think that families with more than one child can only love one? Do you only love one of your parents? Siblings? Friends? Humans are capable of loving more than one person at a time.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone you loved, but it came to an end and eventually over time, you fell in love with someone else? If you have, you’d have noticed that both relationships were different and you loved both of those people for different reasons.
I love each of my partners in entirely different ways and for different reasons, but just because I love more than one person at a time does not mean I love anyone less.

Since I have been in an open and caring poly relationship, I have been the happiest and most comfortable I’ve ever been and have all but eliminated jealousy from my life. I think that my relationships are healthy and wonderful and I am so lucky to have the partners I do.

I don’t expect people to understand or even necessarily agree with my poly lifestyle, but I do ask that they respect it.
Personally I think they notion of monogamy, marriage or that you can only love one person at a time is a totally outdated concept, but I respect those that choose to live that way and I would expect the same in return.